Do you think love is just a matter of feelings? Well, you’re wrong: love lives in the brain and it is in fact the result of some hormones variations. This is the less romantic side of love, yet interesting. These hormonic modifications explain the need of finding your soul mate and the serenity of those who live in a couple. Love has a great impact on our body.
Discover the secrets of love chemistry and attachment!
Being in love is very important for the body that suffers real changes. There is a strong hormonic storm, at the beginning of the relationship, which affects the body: dopamine, adrenalin, and oxytocin. But the firebrand is phenyltilamina – the natural amphetamine of love and happiness.
Moreover, phenyltilamina is to be found in small quantities in chocolate, which could explain why single ladies compensate their celibacy by eating chocolate.
After the first dates, love changes: the presence of the loved one makes you feel safe and this produces endorphins. These are morphines produced by the body. The body produces oxytocin, called ‘the attachment hormone’ by scientists, because all monogamous animals secrets this substance from the first intercourse.
Sexual relations straighten the chemical cocktail, because it produces luteinizing hormone (LH-RH), dopamine and endorphins. The result is the feeling of bliss, a temporary anesthesia of all problems and the desire to start over. Anxiety, stress and all other tensions disappear. Being in love is a way of being Zen.
Passion – a strong drug
Love, or dopamine, provokes the same reaction in the body as cocaine, producing thus addiction. The body starts to ask repeatedly the source of pleasure, the loved one, and the consequences are very well known: endless phone calls, photos contemplation, surprise visits…
When Love Dies
Some studies sustain that, just like in the case of drug addiction, when it comes to love, there’s a moment when tolerance interferes. The body gets used to the love hormone and, in a couple of years, these substances looses their effect. Unlike illicit substances, it’s difficult to increase the dose of hormones so that the body could be satisfied. In this case, you feel the need to find out somewhere else what you are missing.
In order to stop this ‘change of nest’, you can use some drinks that will make you feel in love again. John Gray, the author of the bestseller ‘Men Come from Mars and Women Come from Venus’ created a chocolate drink for rusted couples. The version for women increases the level of serotonin, while the version for men increases the level of dopamine. Besides, the drink has slimming effects to.
All those hormones produced while you are in love have a benefic effect on your body. They reduce stress and anxiety, protecting us against cardiovascular diseases and metabolic disturbances. Nevertheless, there is a side effect: serotonin can create an obsession for the one you love (similar mechanism like obsessive-compulsive disturbances). Being apart from the loved one may cause psychiatric diseases, like depression.
Of course, this shouldn’t make us trying not to fall in love. We couldn’t even if we wanted it! Love knows no command!