This article is dedicated exclusively to women, because when it comes to be more daring in bed, well, things are more like ‘easy to say, hard to do’. But why does it have to be so hard? Let’s be honest, girls, and let’s face the fact that we all have our complexes which are not easy to accept: small breasts or bigger breasts, cellulite on our hips or thighs, flat butt, belly and so on. So how can you be relaxed and daring when you have so many things to think of?
According to David Taylor, sexologist and co-author of the book Your Long Erotic Weekend (Quiver), a couple goes through three phases:
The first phase is narcissism – “I want what I want and I will get it.”
The second phase is the compromise – you sacrifice everything to maintain harmony within the couple.
The third phase is the most wanted – synergy. “Couples who reach to this stage have understood that they can create more intimacy between them by seeing their partner’s needs as opportunities to strengthen their relationship.” But in order to reach this final stage you must not let yourself down by the routine and let him do the entire work in your intimacy. You have to work to and be daring.
First of all, you have to do everything you can to feel better in your own body: go to a SPA, buy yourself a sexy lingerie and create a pleasant and relaxing (be careful not to fall asleep) in the bedroom. Wear your high heels, your best bra and some really sexy clothes, in fact as less clothes as you can. Stuff your pajama in your closet and go for a piece of lingerie that makes you feel hot and daring.
One of the best ways to be daring in bed is to stay open with the things you like. At first, it’s true, you may be shy or embarrassed, but once you pass over the fear of talking about what turns you on, you will find it easier each time and you will realize that things can work out as you wish too and that the pleasure will be for both of you. If you are always waiting for your partner to take the initiative, you may experience boredom at some point. Besides, there’s nothing to be ashamed of and taking the initiative for you, as a woman, is absolutely normal nowadays.
For instance, you can initiate an intimate moment in different times of day: at sunrise or even when you come back home from the office. It’s up to you to spice up your sex life: have sex in the bathtub, in the car, in an elevator or in a motel. It’s healthy an fun to experiment sexual stuffs and the pleasure is granted when you and your partner are equally open-minded. Even a talk about doing something new may be sexy because for most women, the foreplay begins long before getting rid of your clothes. It’s normal to feel foolish wearing a cop uniform or disguise in a medical nurse or to make him pass as the ‘cable guy’, but take it all as a play and you’ll have the fun of your life!